I might not be very old but I feel like I have been through quite a bit in my life. Mainly due to trial and error of my own fault, I have learned a lot of life lessons. I’m a firm believer in tough love and figuring your life out on your own, no one needs to hold my hand and baby me through anything: I’ve got this. As a result of my stubborn mentality, I have been proven wrong a lot and I have also been proven right a decent amount of times. Here’s a few gems I would like to share with you.


Putting Bras in the Dryer

Now this life lesson is a little different for the simple fact that I knew intimates should not be thrown in the dryer. But I didn’t care. Call it ignorance, call it rebellion, call it whatever you’d like, I just call it stupidity that in my late teens I threw every single piece of clothing in the dryer. In my defense, my first apartment didn’t have a washer and dryer so all of our dirty laundry was being hauled across town to a friends house or a laundromat. Nonetheless, bras are expensive and there is no sweeter feeling than having a $60 bra that is seven months old still in pristine condition because it is properly cared for.

People Don’t Change

I don’t know how many times I’ve been told that people don’t change. But I’ve witnessed change too many times to ever believe that people can’t change. Think about yourself for minute, can you honestly say that you think, act, respond, speak, and live your life the EXACT same way that you did five years ago? Every day people overcome addiction, mental illness, disease. Every day people are talked down to, bullied, and debated with. To say that these common struggles do not change how you view and interact with the world would be a flat out lie. People can change if they so choose and they can either make that change for the better or the worse.

Last but not least. . .

Family is Blood

This lesson was the hardest for me to learn because I was raised that family is the most important thing in the world. I was raised that no matter what you excuse your family for their inconsiderate comments, you accept them as they are and you have no choice but to love them. I have had family betray me, walk all over me and treat me like dirt meanwhile I have people that I have known for seven months that I would trust with my life. If moving away from home has taught me one thing, it’s that you create your own family. In addition, being my family member does not give you a free pass to pick apart and try to belittle everything I have worked hard to create and achieve in my 21 years of life. Sharing an ancestor somewhere along the line doesn’t earn you the ability to disrespect me and it be okay. No where in our family bible does it say we are given the right to tear each other apart just because we share some DNA. Spread kindness and love, ESPECIALLY to the ones you are suppose to love the most.